Happy Holidays, friend.

This time of year usually comes with familiar invitations:

What goals do I want to set in the year ahead?
What do I want to change going forward?

But I want to invite you into a different set of questions.

Before we go there, I want to share that I’m hosting a live year-end session this coming Tuesday—and it won’t be about goal setting in the traditional sense.

No frameworks or PowerPoint slides.

Instead, we’ll work with Identity Honesty — not deciding what you want to accomplish or where you want to be, but who you’re allowing yourself to be.

A return to the self that’s been quietly nudging at you, so what’s meant for you can actually find you this year.

I’ll share the details at the end — but for this edition of the newsletter, I want to share the heart of this work right here.

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You’re Not Being Asked to Set Better Goals This Year

As the year closes, the pressure starts doing what it always does.

It points your attention outward.

Fix this.
Catch up.
Achieve that.
Prove something.

And if we’re not careful, we’ll set goals from the same identity that feels safe, and that we know we’ve already outgrown — even if it no longer feels true.

So I want to offer you a different doorway.

A question I return to when I notice myself reaching for “the next level” with my mind… while my body is still living in an older story.

Who do you want to be known as 12 months from now?

Not what you want to achieve.
Not what you want to change.

Those questions aren’t wrong. They’re just incomplete.

Another way to let this question open is…

Who is the version of me that would be living that life?

Because your life doesn’t change when you do more. It changes when you inhabit a truer expression of who you already are.

And here’s the part we don’t see:

You can’t fully step into a new identity while protecting the old one.

That tension you feel, the pull between who you’ve been and who you sense you’re becoming. It isn’t confusion.

It’s a doorway.

And every year ends with the same quiet invitation:

Will you carry an old identity into a future it can’t enter? Or will you let the next, truer identity lead?

This isn’t about reinventing yourself.

It’s about choosing authenticity so fully that your decisions, boundaries, and relationships naturally begin to change.

You don’t need to name any of this right now. But what you can do… is simply notice how this question lands in the body:

Who do you want the world to feel when they’re in your presence 12 months from now?

Not what you upgrade.
Not what you produce.
Not what you earn.

But who you’re being.

Because the identity that feels like home is the one your life is waiting for.

Why Momentum Fades: The Body Can Only Follow One Story at a Time

There’s a reason these questions land in the body, not the mind.

If you’ve felt scattered, inconsistent, or oddly unmotivated at times, it’s rarely because you lack discipline or clarity.

More often, it’s because more than one identity is trying to lead your life at the same time.

Each identity you inhabit comes with its own rules for safety.
Its own emotional posture.
Its own sense of what’s allowed.

So when one part of you is ready to move forward, and another part is still trying to protect an older version of you, the body doesn’t surge ahead.

It hesitates.

And that hesitation often gets mislabeled as laziness, uncertainty, or procrastination. But it isn’t any of those. It’s simply the nervous system saying, “I can’t follow multiple stories at once.”

That’s why Identity Honesty matters.

Because when you stop splitting your energy between who you’ve been and who you’re becoming, the body settles.

And when the body settles, movement becomes natural again — not forced, not strategic, not performed. Only authentic.

So perhaps, the most fundamental question underlying all these year-end reflections is:

Which identity will my nervous system be allowed to rest in?

The one that keeps you small but safe?

Or the one that feels honest — even if it asks more of you?

The Money You Want and Your Identity

Let's ground this with something real—something we're all chasing, either directly or indirectly.

Money.

The common approach is to try to change your financial reality by outrunning an old identity, unknowingly setting money goals from avoidance or fear:

“I don’t want to struggle.”
“I don’t want to feel behind.”
“I don’t want to be this version of myself anymore.”

But here’s the trap:

Running from an identity still keeps it in the center.

Avoidance is still orientation.

And money doesn’t respond to pressure or avoidance. Money responds to coherence. Embodiment.

The money you want will come from the identity you’re stepping into — not the identity you’re trying to run away from.

Money is not just numbers in your bank account or a way to earn a living.

It’s receiving.
It’s being seen.
It’s holding more.

It’s making decisions from worthiness instead of fear.

And if your nervous system still thinks “more” is unsafe… you can want it all day long. Your body will block the door.

This is why the old paradigm of manifestation of: “I want it → I visualize it → I get it” is flawed.

And it’s really:

“I become honest → I become coherent → I become available.”

Available, so what’s meant for you can find you.

Closing Reflection

Over the next few weeks, as you consider what 2026 is offering you, I invite you to simply sit with this:

What identity feels most true right now? Like breath. Like coming home to who you're really meant to be.

That’s where alignment lives.
That’s where money lives.
That’s where your next chapter begins.

Live from that remembering.

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If you want to go deeper into what we explored today, check out my series on Substack, Return to Self: A Seven-Part Journey Into Conscious Identity Shifting.

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Gentle Invitation: Free Year-End Live Session

If these questions are alive in you and you want to sit with them more deeply, I'm hosting a live year-end session on Tuesday, December 30th.

We'll step into these exact reflections — gently, in the body, without pressure — to explore what's looking to emerge from you this year and who you're being called to step into.

It will include: